From people-pleasing and chronic self-doubt to feeling secure in yourself.

Therapy for people who want to stand in their own authority with clarity and confidence.

You may struggle with over-giving, second-guessing yourself or feeling responsible for other people’s emotions.

Perhaps it is hard to say “no” without guilt, to trust your own judgement or to feel steady in who you are within relationships. Beneath these patterns there is often low self-esteem.

These difficulties usually have deeper roots — and with focused, in-depth psychotherapy, they can change. I help you build genuine self-respect, emotional clarity and a stronger sense of self.

A woman with shoulder-length brown hair smiling, seated in front of a bookshelf with colorful books, wearing a black and teal patterned shirt and headphones around her neck.

You want to stop…

Constantly doubting yourself — replaying conversations and questioning your worth
Saying “yes” when you really mean “no” — and resenting it later
Losing sight of your own needs — while prioritising everyone else’s
Constantly apologising for yourself
Measuring your value by what you do or how agreeable you are — rather than who you are

You’re ready to…

Trust your judgment — and feel confident in your own authority
Say ‘no’ naturally — without guilt or fear of rejection
Honour your own needs — knowing they matter as much as anyone else’s
Stay steady in relationships — without collapsing, over-explaining or self-doubt
Feel secure in yourself — calm, self-respecting and quietly confident

I’m Sam.

A woman with shoulder-length brown hair sitting in a red armchair in front of bookshelves filled with colorful books. She is wearing a dark dress with red patterns and has a contemplative expression. Behind her are potted plants on a white shelf.

I work with adults who feel stuck in patterns of people-pleasing, chronic self-doubt and indecision. You may find yourself listening to everyone else’s needs while losing touch with your own, second-guessing your choices or feeling that you are either “not enough” or somehow “too much”.

There can be a constant internal tension — replaying conversations, worrying you’ve upset someone, questioning whether you were right to speak up or struggling to say no without guilt. You may feel unclear about who you are beneath these patterns, or exhausted from trying to hold everything together.

With over ten years’ clinical experience, I use Intensive Short-Term Dynamic Psychotherapy (ISTDP), a focused, evidence-based approach. Rather than remaining at the level of coping strategies or insight alone, we work actively and experientially in the session to bring into awareness the emotional conflicts and protective defences that keep self-doubt and over-adapting in place — and to work through them directly.

Many of my clients have had therapy before and understood their patterns intellectually, yet still felt stuck. Our work goes beyond understanding the story. By addressing the emotional roots of self-doubt and people-pleasing, you can begin to trust your own judgement, tolerate closeness and conflict without collapsing and develop a steadier, more secure sense of self.

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